Are we Boyfriend/girlfriend yet?

Ok well ive been seeing this guy for 2 months and i really like him and he apparently really likes me but just this past saturday he went to a grade 11 party and got really drunk not to sure if he tryed to do anything with anoher girl but someone said that he tryed and i want to know what do i say to him like cause i want to know if he likes me as much as i like him? But i just dont know how to ask him plus i want to know if we are more than just seeing eachother like are we offically boyfriend girfriend yet? Please help me i need some advice im dieing here!!!

Started dating best friend -- but he's soo cold

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

After and 8 year friendship my best friend and I crossed the line and started dating. He is a best thing that has ever happened to me. The problem is he has Huge Trust Issues and is a bitter and angry man.

During the holiday season - I was running short on time - so I called to tell him I was on my way up to see him. I got to his house - he didn't answer the phone. I called again. Instead of just knocking to see if he was okay I dropped off his present and left.

I was mad he didn't answer the phone and short on time.

When he asked me if I knocked I said yes - knowing I hadn't and he caught me in the lie.

For this - it has been 2 months and he doesn't want to talk to me or see me. He said he can't ever Trust me again.

I apologized both in written format and in person. I forced myself in to his home last week. He was nice but cold. When I left he said have a nice life and leave me alone

Is there any hope

Ex-girlfriend's jealousy is making my life hell

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I kissed this guy i know from school but had never spoken to before last thursday and saturday when out at a club. On thursday we kissed once in the club and then all the way home in the taxi (he lives near me and there were others in the car too). Then on saturday, he arrived late, i didnt no he was coming, and he saw me and came over to me and we started talking. Then from about 11 till 1:30 we were together kissing, talking and mucking around, like singing all the corny songs that came on. I knew he used to go out with a girl in my year but i heard they broke up at christmas.

After saturday night, i heard that they had gotten together after that and they only broke up the saturday before. Now his ex is soo angry at me and has spoken to me twice both times shouting at me. Im not a shy person but i am quite quiet and i wasnt preapred for this. She said she cant shout at him as she has vowed never to talk to him again and she is now saying that they didnt break up the saturday before we kissed, they broke up the saturday after, but i no that this isnt true as he called her his ex when talking about her on thursday. She has called me a slut and shouted fuch u to me so many times today. And the second time we talked she threatened me saying that if i ever talk to him she will break my legs and if i ever have a thing with him she will smash my face against a wall. I know it sounds so immature and she probably is all talk but its reli getting to me and i normally don't let these things bother me.

Everyone is on my side saying that i am not in the wrong and her friends are so angry with her and have been comforting me and i no ive technically done nothin wrong cos i thought they'd been broken up for months but her shouting at me like that has reli, as ive said, got to me and i dont no wat to do.

I havent been able to talk to the guy since saturday as i've been away but now im not sure if i will or not, i reli like him we got on so well and seeing as we were only kissing and he didnt try anything else i no he's not looking for sex like the majority of guys are, but still can someone please tell me what to do? Do i stand up to her? Because i could give her attitude back but im not sure i want to, so far ive just let her shout and then let her no i didnt realise how recently they've broken up but she just says im talkin shit and she doesnt believe me. And what do i do about him?

Please help, this is really upsetting me!

Is this a one night stand or the start of a terrible relationship?

Hi Mr Bitter Guy,

I really would appreciate your help with a relationship problem.

I met this really great guy at new year. We started chatting, danced for a bit, celebrated the new year and before long the night was over. Me and my housemate lived only two streets away and he offered to walk us home. He ended up staying over that night although we didnt sleep together (we both agreed that we liked each other too much for it to turn into a one night stand).

He bought me breakfast the next day (New Years Day) and we ended up spending the whole day together and going back to his where we did then have sex.

For the next month we saw each other about once a week - he would invite me to his, cook us some dinner, watch some movies etc(which always resulted in us having sex), we text each other every few days and it was going great.

The thing is he was off work during that month so he had time to see me. However since he's been back at work we've only seen each other once or twice. In fact its now been nearly three weeks since I last saw him and when i text him he sometimes doesnt get back to me for a week at a time.

I have text him saying that i feel like my times being wasted and giving him the chance to either explain or break things off - he just replied that work had been really busy and that he'd had hardly any time off work and asked how i was.

Whilst i acknowledge that he has a very demanding job (he's a policeman) and that his work hours are sometimes unsociable i feel really ignored.

I really really do like this guy very much and he is a genuinely lovely person - but now i wonder whether he's giving me the brush off or whether it is genuinly just his job getting in the way.

I guess i have two questions here;

1. Were we ever really any more than a prolonged one night stand?

2. Is he now giving me the brush off or is it just that he's tied up with work and therefore maybe i should cut him a bit of slack?

Im sorry to have rambled on here (i feel better for it) but i am very confused and really need some good advice. I know your not psychic but from the info above... what do you think?

Thanks for your time.

Confused xx

Is my boyfriend into me?

Dear Bitter Guy,

I'm in a 7+ Month long distance relationship and I seem to have this nagging feeling that he's just not that into me which is further pointed out by my girls.

Scenario A:He said he was gonna be back in Feb but he never took the time to save for the flight and he tells me he wont be back and it made me feel slighted.

Scenario B:He, by some fluke timing has his grandma who's sick beckon all the children back so he's now back for a week but we only saw each other once and he spends the rest of his time with his friends. He's got 2 more days until he leaves the country.

Scenario 3:I text him and he never replies and we speak sporadically throughout the whole 7+ months.

Should I dump him and how? He's a lovely friend and I don't want to compromise any possible future platonic relationships with him. Although that may be wishful thinking.

Regards,

Slighted Female.

Help! My boyfriend's a sociopath!

help- i met a sociopath.

he absolutely does not blink nor respond if i cry, get upset. he says he blocks out any situation that will arise emotion out of him.

he says if he responds to emotion it will destroy him.

he has done this entire life, with his family, friends, career. he strays from human affection by having meaningless flings. for once he is in a relationship..

but will he ever be open to love and be loved?

or is he doomed, and so am i?

Are porn sites, online chatting and dating sites fun or cheating?

just curious, if its possible for a bf to be going on dating sites, porn sites, or chats, for "fun" and have it be completely loyal still.

i would never think so, and in my past it led me to find his path of cheating.but are their cases where its normal, and perfectly harmless.

i just feel like everyone needs some flirtation from a stranger once in a while to make them feel sexy. sometimse hearing it from your partner doesnt sound believable. but when you need to get intimacy with a stranger while you are dating someone, than you have a problem.

Should you spy on your partner?

Hi there,

I first have to say thanks to replying to my past question so fast and actually posting it up. thanks so much!

i was just wondering what your thoughts are on, keeping your "eye" on your partner?such as reading their emails, browsing through their phone calls, or even logging their chats? with or without them knowing.

i know it is a trust issue and is very disrespectful to invade their privacy. however, if i had not done so in my past relationship i think i would never have known his extent of cheating and betrayal. in my opinion, its good to trust who you love, in fact its crucial. but every now and then, you should check their mail, or log their chats for a week or two, just to ensure to yourself and them, that there is something worth trusting.

if you find out their loyal-great , you can breathe easy and love them more.

if you find out their disloyal, well its good you got to find out when you did, rather than continue on a few more years with this betrayal.

i was just wondering your views on this.

also, in the reverse situation, i would encourage my partner to check on me. if he felt suspicious i would be happy that he was satisfied that it was just him being silly, and that i am loyal. and if iwas starting to stray, id be hapy he caught me when he did, and i felt ashamed , and hopefully would rectify the situation , before it was too late.

Girlfriend starts to cut herself again ...

ok..well i made a BIG mistake with my boyfriend..i used to cut and its been over 9 months since i last did it..but i slipped up and did it a few weeks ago..i told my boyfriend because i didn't want to keep it from him..now i'm trying to get him to forgive me and it's been over 2 weeks..he's really poetic and has that whole romantic persona thing going on..i've already tried saying my feelings, it got him to ease up a little, but he's still mad..please please please help.