Sunday, December 12, 2010

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I'm bitter too! So I watched the show called Tool Academy on VH1, and I immediately went online to enroll my "boyfriend." But unfortunately, you need to be 21 to sign up so I came here for advice

If my tool had a title it would be "Stoner Tool". His priorities go in this order: 1.Himself 2.His stoner friends 3.Weed 4.Partying 5.Family 6.Me. I'm not asking to be number one all the time (family comes first) but come on.. He can go anywhere from almost a month to a week without making an effort to talk to me. After dating for over a year, I consider this unacceptable. The first 6 months of our relationship were great, but then he started smoking weed again and everything changed. He would give up EVERYTHING for weed! He says things like, "I don't love weed, it's just been my business for so long," or "Weed isn't a thing you do, it's a lifestyle," "You'd be a better person if you smoked," and all sorts of other B.S.

He says he loves me but usually that's only after being intimate. Which brings us to my next point. We NEVERRRRR go anywhere other than his house. I complain about it all the time and he gets all pissy and says "Fine, okay just drop it!" I really wanna hang out with him and his friends or go do something other than hang out in his house but it's like he wants to hide me from the rest of the world! And he gets sooo jealous of other guys, but when I get upset that I find a picture of him and his shirt off while holding some girl (which he lies and says is from over a year ago), he says I'm "trippin'".

So to sum it up, he doesn't care anymore. I've let the disrespect slide so many times that it's become the only way he treats me. Well not the ONLY way, but it's enough that it makes me really unhappy.

Is this fixable? How? Because I really am in love with him. If not, how can I get over him? And what should I say to make him fully understand..?

Last Hope

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

We've been together for 6 months now-long distance. What we have is mostly a great emotional connection. For physical stuff, we do phone and video sex(i dont know if that really counts as physical).

I love him, we're great together but sometimes it just gets hard. I want it to work. I try really hard to be faithful to him. But yesterday I went clubbing with a friend and ended up cheating with this friend. He basically kissed me a lot, and I kissed him back, there was also some touching. I had been drinking and my guard was down because i had no idea this friend was interested in me. I'm not blaming what I did on the alcohol. I drank a lot but God knows I could have stopped it. today, i confessed what happened (well, part of it) to my boyfriend. I told him we just kissed a bit and I blamed it on the alcohol.

He says he's not mad cos he understands that I was drunk, but I know he's hurt. I had to tell him because he gets extremely mad when I lie/ keep stuff from him. And I didnt want him getting mad. I love him, a lot. I want his trust back. My friend is also now intersted in me, and I am attracted to him.

We have fun together, but I can't risk cheating on my boyfriend again- He'd kill me. Not literally but you know what I mean. I want him to see me as his angel again and i dont wanna cheat :(.

Please help, I dnt wanna fal into the once a cheater, always a cheater category.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I need some help please! I went to a sensual massage therapist and feel in love with her at first sight. Well after a few months, we starting dating and we fell head over heels in love.

Well, after 3 months of dating, I told her I was having a hard time dealing with her job and she agreed and quit, which was a big relief and we started planning our marriage and our future. I had a great job and was able to take care of her financially

Well, I recently lost my job but I am sure I will be back to work soon however, she decided to go back to giving massages. She promises she is not doing anything but the "Happy Ending" (which breaks my heart) but I have to either deal with it or lose her. I find myself looking at her ad on Backpage and just put it in the back of my mind and I am dealing with it so far, but I am scared. Am I a fool, after all, I knew what she was doing before I started dating her, and I know she loves me.

REALLY, what should I do?

Please, any advice will be helpful because I am lost!

Monday, January 18, 2010

Dear Mr Bitter Guy

I need some bitter sweet advice..
I'm a young woman, (5'6, about 165) and used to be in shape but with all the stress in my life i can't seem to loose weight or feel healthy or satisfied with my body anymore, although i do exercise and keep fairly good eating habits. This really came into play when I began seeing my current boyfriend about 6months ago. He's about 5'7 155lbs with AMAZING 6pack abs, tan skin, and arms the size of melons.. With no hesitation do I say, he looks like a Calvin Cline (kinda funny but true)MY PROBLEM IS... I think our SEX life isn't branching out to other adventurous, exciting techniques because I'm too ashamed of how I look naked compaired to him. With previous partners I had always been spontanious and I want to be able to show him that other side of me and much more. But I'm afraid to say anything to him about my discomfort because meaningfully pointing out my flaws and weakness is in NO way attractive. Espcially when it has to do with our sex life.. What should I do?