My boyfriend keeps seeing strippers

Dear Mr Bitter Guy

Please can you help me?

I've been going out with my guy for 5 years, he went to amsterdam 1 year ago and saw a sex show and went to see strippers.

When he came back i told him i was really upset that he felt he need to go watch girls take their clothes off and have sex with each other when he has a girl at home.

i made his life hell in the following weeks and since our sex life has gone down hill.

im a size 12 and men fancy me and chat me up but Im insecure about myself. i dont think men think im ugly, Anyway my guy went to amsterdam again last week and went to see strippers and he come home and told me.

i was really mad and it makes me feel even more insecure about my body and as soon as something comes on the TV about strippers i feel bad

am i paranoid? i dont know wether to stay with him or leave him hes broke my trust and i dont know if it can be repaired. Im 28 years old , Is this just a man thing or should i be more grown up?

Mr Bitter Guy says ...

To most guys, girls are like fast cars. We want to ride them hard, park them up and then try another. Most fast cars are very expensive, so guys just dream about fast cars. Or watch them drive past on the highway. And most of us don't want a dozen of them because of the headache of up-keep. But it doesn't stop us looking or wishing.

The problem with fast cars is they generally don't have much luggage room, boot space or have lousy gas consumption. You need to fit your golf clubs in the trunk with little effort. This makes fast cars impractical for every day cars.

So as long as your boyfriend is only on the forecourt gazing longingly at the Aston Martins it's perfectly natural and OK. If he wasn't looking, then I'd be very worried. If he was stoking and carressing and licking them I'd be worried.

This really isn't about you. He tells you all about it, he's not ashamed and he's open about it which means you've got a special place in his garage. Tell him it upsets you, but try to see it from his point of view: Your the one he rides. Give him the chance to fill you up with gas, get some new spoilers. Go to the pump and get some high-octane love-fuel.

If you don't act, he may well think you're broken and trade you in for something new.