im going out with this boy for 3 mnths and i love him
but i got drunk and was all over this other boy so i got 2 boyfriends but i love the one ive been going out with for 3 months more
i feel real bad and dont no what to do
Mr Bitter Guy says ...
If I got a penny for every letter about "I got drunk and did something stupid" I'd have $6.37
First off, I gotta ask whether you're even old enough to drink? Seems like you're a young'un.
If you're not old enough to drink, you're not old enough to be in a serious relationship. After all that's how serious relationships start -- by drinking too much.
Ok. Enough tom-foolery. Easy answers here.I'm sure we've all let things get out of hand after a few beers. I could tell you a story about the time I ended up naked in a field with only a bottle of wine, an office stapler and a note duct-taped to my back which read "My name is Mandy -- be nice to me" -- but I'll leave that for another day.
Anyway, if you want to carry on seeing your first boyfriend, don't tell him what you did. Ditch the second boyfriend -- tell Dude no.2 you were drunk and shouldn't have been so naughty. And never ever, ever cheat again.
If you want to carry on seeing the second guy, you'll have to ditch Dude No.1 but don't tell the second guy anything. And don't ever, ever cheat again.
Now it might seem like I'm advocating lying but the fact of the matter is, if this is an honest mistake, then you'll serve no-one's interests by being open about it. What the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't mind.
As punishment, you'll live with this guilt for the rest of your life, which is far better than you having to live with this guilt for the rest of your life AND ruining someone else's life in the process.
Don't do it again.
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If I got a penny for every letter about "I got drunk and did something stupid" I'd have $6.37
First off, I gotta ask whether you're even old enough to drink? Seems like you're a young'un.
If you're not old enough to drink, you're not old enough to be in a serious relationship.
After all that's how serious relationships start -- by drinking too much.
Ok. Enough tom-foolery. Easy answers here.
I'm sure we've all let things get out of hand after a few beers. I could tell you a story about the time I ended up naked in a field with only a bottle of wine, an office stapler and a note duct-taped to my back which read "My name is Mandy -- be nice to me" -- but I'll leave that for another day.
Anyway, if you want to carry on seeing your first boyfriend, don't tell him what you did. Ditch the second boyfriend -- tell Dude no.2 you were drunk and shouldn't have been so naughty. And never ever, ever cheat again.
If you want to carry on seeing the second guy, you'll have to ditch Dude No.1 but don't tell the second guy anything. And don't ever, ever cheat again.
Now it might seem like I'm advocating lying the fact of the matter is, if this is an honest mistake, then you'll serve no-one's interests by being open about it. What the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't mind, as the saying goes.
As punishment, you'll live with this guilt for the rest of your life, which is far better than you having to live with this guilt for the rest of your life AND ruining someone else's life in the process.
Don't do it again.
You asshole. You can't tell people to lie. This girl sounds young and confues and you're just going to confuse her more.
Be open with everyone, hun. If your boyfriend loves you he'll stay with you and forgive you.
I'm not telling her to lie. I'm telling her to forget about the experience and move on.
and don't give me any crap about a lie by ommission either. A crime is a crime. Not admitting to it is not a lie unless you say you didn't do it.
And considering the US Criminal Justice system has a very nice ammendment based on a similar premise of non-admitting, maybe you could write to the High Courts and get them to set a better example?
The world is not filled with roses and ponies. There is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The best we can do is cause as little harm as we can as we stroll through life.
Thank you.
Go for it Mr Bitter Guy! WOOT!
bitter guy. your a god.
- i have to agree with mr bitter guy, this was your mistake. dont take a guy down with you. but be careful to NEVER do it again...men are strong and fearless on the outside, but their hearts are just as tender as ours, and if its hurting can be avioded...avoid it. as you and your relationships grow, you'll learn that there are alot of little things us women do to keep our men happy and on track. in your case right now, although it seems a little shady, your job is to keep him strong and on track Emotionally. when he's hurt, he's not in charge, and when he doesn't feel in charge, his masculenity and trust in you is at an all time low. NO relationship works with a guy in that position. best of luck to you dear!
Be open with everyone, hun. If your boyfriend loves you he'll stay with you and forgive you.
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