Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I'm bitter too! So I watched the show called Tool Academy on VH1, and I immediately went online to enroll my "boyfriend." But unfortunately, you need to be 21 to sign up so I came here for advice

If my tool had a title it would be "Stoner Tool". His priorities go in this order: 1.Himself 2.His stoner friends 3.Weed 4.Partying 5.Family 6.Me. I'm not asking to be number one all the time (family comes first) but come on.. He can go anywhere from almost a month to a week without making an effort to talk to me. After dating for over a year, I consider this unacceptable. The first 6 months of our relationship were great, but then he started smoking weed again and everything changed. He would give up EVERYTHING for weed! He says things like, "I don't love weed, it's just been my business for so long," or "Weed isn't a thing you do, it's a lifestyle," "You'd be a better person if you smoked," and all sorts of other B.S.

He says he loves me but usually that's only after being intimate. Which brings us to my next point. We NEVERRRRR go anywhere other than his house. I complain about it all the time and he gets all pissy and says "Fine, okay just drop it!" I really wanna hang out with him and his friends or go do something other than hang out in his house but it's like he wants to hide me from the rest of the world! And he gets sooo jealous of other guys, but when I get upset that I find a picture of him and his shirt off while holding some girl (which he lies and says is from over a year ago), he says I'm "trippin'".

So to sum it up, he doesn't care anymore. I've let the disrespect slide so many times that it's become the only way he treats me. Well not the ONLY way, but it's enough that it makes me really unhappy.

Is this fixable? How? Because I really am in love with him. If not, how can I get over him? And what should I say to make him fully understand..?

Sincerely,
Last Hope

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

We've been together for 6 months now-long distance. What we have is mostly a great emotional connection. For physical stuff, we do phone and video sex(i dont know if that really counts as physical).

I love him, we're great together but sometimes it just gets hard. I want it to work. I try really hard to be faithful to him. But yesterday I went clubbing with a friend and ended up cheating with this friend. He basically kissed me a lot, and I kissed him back, there was also some touching. I had been drinking and my guard was down because i had no idea this friend was interested in me. I'm not blaming what I did on the alcohol. I drank a lot but God knows I could have stopped it. today, i confessed what happened (well, part of it) to my boyfriend. I told him we just kissed a bit and I blamed it on the alcohol.

He says he's not mad cos he understands that I was drunk, but I know he's hurt. I had to tell him because he gets extremely mad when I lie/ keep stuff from him. And I didnt want him getting mad. I love him, a lot. I want his trust back. My friend is also now intersted in me, and I am attracted to him.

We have fun together, but I can't risk cheating on my boyfriend again- He'd kill me. Not literally but you know what I mean. I want him to see me as his angel again and i dont wanna cheat :(.

Please help, I dnt wanna fal into the once a cheater, always a cheater category.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I need some help please! I went to a sensual massage therapist and feel in love with her at first sight. Well after a few months, we starting dating and we fell head over heels in love.

Well, after 3 months of dating, I told her I was having a hard time dealing with her job and she agreed and quit, which was a big relief and we started planning our marriage and our future. I had a great job and was able to take care of her financially

Well, I recently lost my job but I am sure I will be back to work soon however, she decided to go back to giving massages. She promises she is not doing anything but the "Happy Ending" (which breaks my heart) but I have to either deal with it or lose her. I find myself looking at her ad on Backpage and just put it in the back of my mind and I am dealing with it so far, but I am scared. Am I a fool, after all, I knew what she was doing before I started dating her, and I know she loves me.

REALLY, what should I do?

Please, any advice will be helpful because I am lost!

Dear Mr Bitter Guy

I need some bitter sweet advice..
I'm a young woman, (5'6, about 165) and used to be in shape but with all the stress in my life i can't seem to loose weight or feel healthy or satisfied with my body anymore, although i do exercise and keep fairly good eating habits. This really came into play when I began seeing my current boyfriend about 6months ago. He's about 5'7 155lbs with AMAZING 6pack abs, tan skin, and arms the size of melons.. With no hesitation do I say, he looks like a Calvin Cline model..lol (kinda funny but true)MY PROBLEM IS... I think our SEX life isn't branching out to other adventurous, exciting techniques because I'm too ashamed of how I look naked compaired to him. With previous partners I had always been spontanious and I want to be able to show him that other side of me and much more. But I'm afraid to say anything to him about my discomfort because meaningfully pointing out my flaws and weakness is in NO way attractive. Espcially when it has to do with our sex life.. What should I do?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

This seems kind of tough to explain in a condense way. There's a guy and we've been talking for almost a year now. We've talked constantly pretty much everyday, we've flirted, hung out, and he knows that I like him. In January he had to leave for 6 months, but he'll be back where I am in 2 weeks. While he's been gone we've emailed each other a whole bunch and I'll talk to him online. When he gets online he IM's immediately before I even have a chance to. We've made plans for when he gets back and still flirt with each other. Over this past year we've pretty much talked about anything and everything. The problem is that I don't know for sure if he likes me, sometimes it comes across like he definitely does and other times he seems distant. I know that he probably isn't having the best time where he is right now, so that could be part of the problem and I also know that I could be reading into things. Does it seem like there is potential for more than just friends here, he has said some really sweet things to me and you don't think I am wasting time with this right?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I want to get rid of my girlfriend. She is a real psycho and gets angry on very small things. I am not happy with her and we never have sex. She gives me warning of suicide to blackmail me. What should I do? Please tell me.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

Here's the back story, I met this guy on an online dating service, I won't mention which one but it's based on true compatibility. We we're matched based on our compatibility and he initiated communication. We exchanged a few emails, chatted via instant messenger, where we really hit it off and decided to have a phone call. On the phone, we continued to hit it off and talked for a couple of hours. We arranged a brief meeting for a night later that week at a bar which we ended up moving up sooner in the week due to his work schedule is very unpredictable. In his line of work he works odd, inconsistent hours that change every day.

When we met on Thursday, the attraction was undeniable. We saw photos beforehand so we had an idea the but face-to-face mutual chemistry was off the charts. He walked me home and called me when he got home. Over the next week or so, everyday he initiated txts in the morning that would lead to texting marathons all day. He also called me every night. I think we were both excited by the intense chemistry and attraction. Keep in mind, we are both very attractive, picky and have found it difficult to meet people we felt that kind of connection with so it's not like we were naive or desperate. He was very expressive about his sexual attraction for me and how much he wanted to kiss me and how much I turned him on. Of course I felt it was really early for him to be so overly expressive about his sexual feelings towards me, historically I get turned off my guys like this. But, it was ok with him for some reason and we even had phone sex. Twice. He told me he was going to kiss me as soon as he saw me the next time. I suggested that we don't get physical on our 2nd meeting because I wanted to slow it down and didn't want it to be all about sex. Even though it was probably too late for that.

A week and a half later, his work schedule permitted a 2nd meeting during the day that we squeezed in before he went to work. Went to his condo and we hung out with some heavy flirting and light groping. It seemed like he was going to kiss me, and I wanted him to, but then he stopped and told me he didn't want to kiss because it would get too hot and he didn't want to start something that would have to end in an hour. Everything about our courting and interaction was not my usual MO but I just kind of went with the flow because it was fun and exciting. After I left, he texted me how much he enjoyed my company and how turned on he was by me. He came over later that same night because his work got canceled. Still he wouldn't kiss me and when I tried to he dodged me and explained he wanted to take it slow. He continued his explanation by telling me he was now switching to night shifts so we probably won't be able to have our usual nightly phone calls. Uh huh. Everything about this scenario from day one was new to me. The way we met, the phone sex and now the mixed signals, the rejection of my kiss and the story about his work was clearly a brush off. I told myself I'd see how it goes the next few days. The next day (which was this past Sunday) we exchanged a few texts that I initiated. Monday he texted me first. I asked him when his night shift was starting and he said end of the week. As a joke, I textd back "well it was nice knowing you" and followed it with a "just kidding". Tuesday nothing all day, I finally texted that evening which led to several texts that ended because he was going to bed early. He made a sexual comment which I replied with "here we go again".

So it's friday now, basically the texting, the phone calls, the momentum came to a halt. Clearly if he wanted to, he can make time for me, as he did before, regardless of his work schedule. So I find it hard to believe we lost momentum do to his work schedule. He and I are pretty straight forward people and I could accept him telling me he doesn't see it working out. I'd rather him tell me than give me the cold shoulder. I have my idea of whats going on but I wanted to hear it from your perspective. I'm thinking I should just leave it alone and not initiate communication anymore. But I also want to hear it from him if somethings up. The obvious reason here seems that he's moving on because he thinks maybe he won't be getting laid, but that contradicts with him dodging my kiss. Maybe he realized something about me that he didn't like. That is fine and totally acceptable, I just think he should be clear with me about it. Is his lack of initiation to communicate his way of being clear with me? What do you think? Thanks!

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

My question is the following, I was dating this bi girl, after a while she broke up with me because her ex came back and she defined herself as a lesbian. She tells me that she loves me and that I am the perfect guy for her if she wasnt a lesbian...So my question is what are the chances of her coming back to me? Is it smart for me to wait for her? What should I do from now on?
(I love her more than anything in the world)

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

OK i have been on and off with my boyfriend for a year. during this time he lied and cheated and had other girls and slept around I was with other people in the times when he had another girlfriend. He cheated on his most recent girlfriend with me lets just say we were very rocky.. and its been nothing but drama for us. but just recently like 1 month we have gotten back together. and are officially together. and things were amazing until i messed up. He is overseas for a year. everyone at home tells me im dumb for waiting and everything well I had a one night stand. I know it will NEVER happen again and I know how he is and he will not forgive me. I regret it so much and have been crying for days. Should I tell him?

Or should i just let it go and see how things are when he gets home...? the thing is i worry a lot and i'm afraid its gonna come out later. he has lied to my face why can't I lie?
by the way he didn't tell me about his cheating. he was just dumb about it.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I've been dating a girl for 3 and something months, and its been patchy. We've been on and off arguing the entire time. Somtimes we'll go two days without it, we even went a month once. But recently if we're not physically together, we're arguing.

Anyway, I'm really not that happy with us anymore. When we're together its great, but when we're not its just terrible. We both have some jealousy issues and it just feels like theres no more trust. I don't want to break up with her, but somethings gotta change, I feel like I'm stuck.

Either way it goes, I can't win. We continue the relationship it'll probably just continue to be rocky and depressing at times; if I end it she'll cry and complain to all of her friends saying God knows what, who'll spread rumors and drama of their own and send my reputation down the crapper.

What do I do?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

So I've been hanging out with this chick and I like her, how do I get a relationship started with her? I'm friends with her roommate and I go over there to hang out with her. Well anyways, I'm really interested in her, how do I approach this?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I usually have sex with my bf for about 15-30 minutes. sometimes longer. We usually stop bc i get tired or become too dry.

He gets very annoyed and makes me feel like every girl lasts alot longer.
what is normal here? also we both never ever climax with eachother, and usually have to do it to ourselves.

i might add, we are not dating anymore. this is a past ex and just curious on norms. I was in a pretty messed up relationship with him, and i wonder if that aids to the rocky road.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I have been with my current boyfriend for 4 months; which really isn't a lot. I think I love him; but I don't quite know. My longest relationship was 4 years long and he cheated on me, it was hard to move on. But I have liked my current boyfriend for 4 years, and he just upsets me so much. He's very jealous of any guy I hang with or hug. He starts fights over stupid things; even about things that aren't true. He questions me about how much I love him. He upsets me beyond compare. On top of all of that; there is this other guy that is insanely in love with me (or claims to be). But I haven't a clue what to do. I've never been put in a situation that I had to choose. I really like him, he is such a great friend, and amazing. And my current boyfriend utterly hates him and is super jealous of him. I've been told ever so many times that my boyfriend and I fight so much that we act like brother and sister. I don't feel that same spark I used to when he was around. Any advice on a decision; because I'm an utterly indecisive person.

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

Embaressing question but so be it. I was a virgin til i met my bf. When i mean virgin i mean never diong anything before that except kissing.

When we mess around, i am into him, but i am never "wet enough" to completely enjoy sex. It is usually slightly painful. and if i am wet at the beginning, it won't last for more than 10 minutes.

is this normal? am i abnormal or maybe not into him enough?

also he never ever ejaculates when messing around. only if he masterbates.

is he normal? is he into me?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

i started talking to this guy that iv known for a while last summer and at first it was going really well.. he was the one calling all the time until about a month through he started getting distant.. it felt like he only called me when he wanted to do stuff with me. this went on for about a year where he only called me once or twice every two weeks. until this summer. we went on a small trip with some friends about 2 months ago and since then he has been calling me every night just to talk. the thing is around march i asked him if he saw me as being anything more then a friend and he said that he had just got out of a three year relationship and wasnt ready. but now that he has completely changed and is actually showing more interest i dont know if i should bring it up again. the thing is, part of me still feels like he doesnt want to be exclusive and im afraid to know. what should i do? Should I bring it up? Or just let it be for now?

Should boyfriend's tragedy stop us dating?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

Ok, well long story as short as possible....

My bf and I have been dating for 2 months... he is BY FAR the most amazing man I have ever met and yeah yeah I know its always good in the beginning.....

Well he had a son that passed away in a horrible accident 2 years ago. So his son bday was August 28th and his sons death was Sep 30th when he was only 2 so I am sure you can see that this month and a half or so is really really hard for him and VERY stressful.

He is a really kind laid back guy and he has been VERY stressed and very depressed recently. We had a talk the other night that he said he cannot handle a serious relationship right now....reluctantly I said fine I will go home and he BEGGED me to stay and please just "bear with him" through this hard time he is going through. He said he still wants to hang out and go on as normal.... he says i am the only one who really understands what he is going through (bc I myself have delt with and am dealing with severe anxiety). Hes so confused right now, he feels like not having that "Label" will take off stress of him worrying about making me happy all the time on top of everything else he is dealing with.

He is starting therapy and probably medication when he goes to the therapist next Monday. So he is taking steps to make this time of year not so hard.....

So my question is, am I stupid to wait and help him and be there for him during this time as a friend and once things get better we can pick it back up? He states that he just is in no state of mind to give me what i need but he knows how lucky he is.... I made him promise if i did this that there is no dating other people bc i wouldnt be able to handle that.... and he promised me and said thats not what this is about...he just wants us to be able to have a healthy relationship....

I just came in his life at a bad time.....

I love this man... he is amazing... but would you wait???? (im not talking years, just a few weeks to a month too see if he is getting better) I would hate to leave him in this time of need.... I just dont know....

What could I do to make my boyfriend happy?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I have no idea what to do when my boyfriend gets angry at me. I would apologize and say sorry! but other than that I would be dumbfounded and wouldnt know what else to do, and that makes him even angrier and we would end up all being very upset.. this happens everytime he gets angry or sad, and i would just wallow in self pity because I don't know how to help him! What can I do to humour him when he is upset and make him happy again???

Pretty girlfriend thinks she's ugly

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

How can I convince my girlfriend to think she's pretty?

Which is the best online dating site?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...

I haven't had a boyfriend in a few years after I had a messy divorce. Now my kids have left home to go back to college I'm thinking of using an online dating service. Which online dating service is best for a single mom. I don't wont to pay too much and I don't wont any freaks.

So which online dating service offers best value for money and best service without being too weird?

Thanks

Boyfriend hates his life ... maybe I hate his life too?

Dear Mr Bitter Guy, I need dating advice ...
I am a high school senior now. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I really like him but he seems to always get mad or upset about something. He always complains about how he hates his life. I can't tell if I still love him or not. I care about him but I don't know if the spark is still there. I also feel obligated to the relationship because of the puppy we share and because all my stuff is at his place and I am too afraid of awkwardness to get it. I just would like some opinions on my situation.