Should you spy on your partner?

Hi there,

I first have to say thanks to replying to my past question so fast and actually posting it up. thanks so much!

i was just wondering what your thoughts are on, keeping your "eye" on your partner?such as reading their emails, browsing through their phone calls, or even logging their chats? with or without them knowing.

i know it is a trust issue and is very disrespectful to invade their privacy. however, if i had not done so in my past relationship i think i would never have known his extent of cheating and betrayal. in my opinion, its good to trust who you love, in fact its crucial. but every now and then, you should check their mail, or log their chats for a week or two, just to ensure to yourself and them, that there is something worth trusting.

if you find out their loyal-great , you can breathe easy and love them more.

if you find out their disloyal, well its good you got to find out when you did, rather than continue on a few more years with this betrayal.

i was just wondering your views on this.

also, in the reverse situation, i would encourage my partner to check on me. if he felt suspicious i would be happy that he was satisfied that it was just him being silly, and that i am loyal. and if iwas starting to stray, id be hapy he caught me when he did, and i felt ashamed , and hopefully would rectify the situation , before it was too late.